Hi guys ! We are back on the blog !
Today is the day for the first guest blogging post on Hitchy Travel Stories ! I met Sunjay a few days ago in Amritsar, as the owner of one of my top hostel in India, Jugaadus hostel. On the table of the common area was lying a note book with some basic explanations about India, the hostel and this peace of paper : “Why we Indian guys are creepy ?”. I enjoyed so much ready it that I asked him if I could publish it and he agreed ! So here it goes 🙂
Why we Indian guys are creepy ?
India is a very conservative society. Males and females are segregated from each other starting from school and there is very little social interaction between them. We are used to a world where men and women don’t talk to each other unless they need to or they are interested in each other, even then smiling doesn’t occur.
When a Western women in this society chats up a local guy and smiles while admiring the local culture, the local sometimes takes it as a sign of interest. This gives him the dream of a beautiful white wife and life in a foreign rich country where he can fulfill his dreams and make his family rich. The feeling of love comes to his head and he is ready to do anything to achieve this dream.
Because of the limited social interactions with women, we are not used to flirting much and we flirt the way an inexperienced thirteen-year-old boy might do the Western culture. Also the social barriers change the way we flirt.
During my high school years, I never had the courage to go straight up to a girl and talk her for fear of getting beaten up by her father or brothers. Instead, I would follow the girl back home (stalk) in a way that she notices for 8-10 days. Then I would dissapear for 3-4 days and follow her again. If she smiles upon seeing me, that would be an invitation to talk and then I would talk to her at a place where no one sees us or drop her a Letter :P. By Western standards, this is no doubt creepy and can(most probably) lead to a restraining order.
Locals think Western women are easy. Indian society is very conservative when it comes to sex before marriage. I can say this with certainty based on my own experiences with Indian girlfriends with the first relationship of 4 years without much sex (I had to try really really hard). By compairson, Indians, who get most of their knowlege about the West from Hollywood or from hearing stories of their friends living in the West, come to view Western society as being much more open inregards to sex.
Without knowing the social dynamics of the West, many Indian men come to believe that Western societies do not vlaue it much or give it much meaning, which all goes towards making Indian men believe it is much more common and regular occurance. This belief that sex is easily had when combined with the average Indian man’s lack of knowledge about how to flirt or even talk to women can easily cause us to come across as quite weird when we try 🙂
All that said, a lot of us are really good/helping human beings in this country and Its good to be nice to locals and smile/mix with them to learn local culture.
Calling an indian Brother/Bhaiya/Paaji would send him the right signal that you are not interested in him and would help keep the people with wrong intentions away.
And that’s it guys ! Hope you have learned a bit more about the Indian flirting way ! A huge thanks the Sunjay for accepting the publishing on the blog. He is an awesome guys and his hostel “Jugaadus hostel“ is as awesome as him 🙂 Community kitchen, loads of very interesting and cheap tours in Amritsar and on the pakistany border, 3 nights spent = 1 free night ! Awesome, Awesome , Awesome !
If you liked the post, share it and comment it ! I’d love to convince him to post on the blog on a regular basis 🙂
NB : I added the gifs myself, they were not in the initial text 😉 It’s not a creepy Indian’s work 😉